04.11.12 Career & Finances

Get It, Girl

Get It, Girl

BY Anne T. Donahue

In the most obvious sentence you’ll ever read in your life, it’s easy to get discouraged.

It’s easy to prioritize money or the quick fix or whatever it is you’re told to want, and even easier to dismiss what you do want because “it’s not realistic”. But here’s the thing about being realistic: it sucks.

It sucks to dismiss your dreams just to appease the opinions of other people – especially when those people are the loudest voices, the strongest voices and always the ones that get stuck in your head. When I dropped out of university, it wasn’t “realistic” for me to pursue writing, and it was even more unrealistic to pursue music journalism – a medium I’d been told was dying, and a medium I chose at the time because I wasn’t ready to write the way I really wanted.

You see, being a “writer” just doesn’t make sense. Why write when I could work full time at the bank I’d just quit? Why write when I could go back to retail and earn more money folding jeans than I could typing words onto a screen? Why write when I could just stay in school, pursue a post-grad and land in a place that would get me a house and a car and enough money to pay back my student loan? Why write – why do the only thing I have ever really wanted to do – when nothing is sure?

But nothing is sure, and for me, the only thing that has ever been sure is that the want to write – and more recently (out loud, anyway), the want to make people laugh – which have both outweighed the “that’s unrealistic!” chants I’ve been privy to since admitting what I wanted to do out loud.

And those slurs hit you hard. You second-guess your dreams and your instincts, and you think that maybe everybody else has a point. But then it gets easier. You learn it’s an endurance test. Then when your friends tell you to keep going and to abandon those naysayers and to keep your goals in mind, you actually listen.

And then you get an email – maybe a request to write something. You notice someone you admire has re-tweeted something you said, and you can’t believe they actually know who you are. They’re small victories – so small, you don’t even tell anybody – but they’re enough to keep you going.

And you need them to outweigh the downfalls. (Which, believe me, will always exist.) For me, realizing that my heart wasn’t in music journalism marked the end of a particular series of events that ended by – glamour alert! – moving back home. Like Annie in Bridesmaids, I hit my version of bottom, but I could finally stop being the person I wasn’t (and didn’t like) to pursue the kind of dreams Journey writes songs about. I still have to budget, and that student loan is staring me in the face, but I’m writing the way I want to surrounded by people I love, which helps make those long-ish ago (last week) moments of wine-cries seem worth it.

Because it is worth it. It’s worth it to struggle, to prove yourself, to make mistakes and to learn so that you can inch closer to that dream and make it yours in way only you can. Nobody’s perfect, and you’ll screw up – probably in ways you didn’t even think possible. You’ll bottom out, and things will go wrong, and you might change your mind on the path you’ve taken – but by following your heart and abandoning what’s “realistic”, those hiccups will just be part of a bigger picture.

So go get it, girl. Get it, and ignore the discouragement and remember that you’re the one whose dreams are waiting. Reality is what you make it – your goals are unrealistic only when you decide that they are.

Empower up.

Featured image by Amanda de Cadenet

Anne is a comedy and pop culture writer based out of Canada. She’s written for sites and magazines like NME, Hello Giggles, BITE and Elle Canada, and she can apply Simpsons quotes to almost any situation. You can check out her podcast, Awesome Shitty Things, that she does with her best friend Steph Rogers. You can find her on Tumblr or Twitter if you like dated jokes about We Bought A Zoo.

Comments

  • ME, TOO! GREAT POST!

  • jennifer

    I hear that, girl. Love this!

  • THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for writing this article! I absolutely loved it, and my whole being (heart, mind, and soul) needed to hear this tonight. I am actually going through the same situation myself (except I am pursuing higher education as part of my crazy dreams that light me up…long story), and it was so awesome to hear that I am not alone in dealing with doubts and needing encouragement from time to time. In fact, I have found in my ripe old age of 28, the one person who gets in my way and tears me down is myself. you for writing and sharing this!

    By the way, I am a HUGE fan of your “Old Lady Movie Night” posts on Hello Giggles. They bring a huge smile to my face and laughter to my life (I literally HOWLED while reading one of your posts.) Keep up the amazing work, and keep doing it for yourself!

  • This is an awesome post and I swear we are soul sisters on the same path. Nonetheless, we will both get to where we are supposed to be, right on time!

  • Brose

    This is wonderful. Thank you.

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