BY Sarah Prout
If you’re looking for love, then the Internet can be a magical realm of possibilities. In fact, it’s estimated that at least one in eight couples are now meeting one another online. Gone are the days when you would be a bit tipsy and meet some “hottie” in a nightclub (although that does still happen).
These days we have the luxury of cyber-vetting them before they get to the first base of ‘meeting.’ We can scrutinize Facebook photos, Google them for info and check out their tweets to make sure their communication style matches our own.
I joined Twitter back in mid-2008 and never looked back. I landed an international book contract, built a publishing business from home and attracted my soul mate from the other side of the planet. In fact, I’m newly engaged to the guy that took a leap of faith to leave his life in Hollywood to come and meet my two children and I here in Australia nearly two and a half years ago.
It all started with 140 characters or less. He was a total stranger and then we moved over to Facebook, then to email, then to Skype and only ten days after we had our first voice to voice conversation we fell in love before we’d even been in the same hemisphere together. When meeting Sean was something that I really wanted to do, he jumped on a plane to visit me. It was like the other half of my soul returned to me, but that’s a story for another day!
So I get asked all the time, “How do I find love online?”
Here are my top 5 tips for meeting your soul mate on the Internet:
1. Set clear intentions.
Write out a list of all of the traits that you are wishing to attract in a partner. Get super-clear on the types of personality traits you would love to have in a relationship. Be very precise about how you wish to feel as a result of having this person as part of your life. Is he/she just like you or does this person have all of the traits, which will make life more interesting as a contrast?
2. Use your intuition and look for signs.
Have your own beautiful private conversation with the Universe about the signs that will let you know that you’re on the right path. Intuition plays such a vital role in forming relationships. Really pay attention to how you feel. If you’re cautious, on-the-fence and unsure about someone, then it’s something you need to make peace with if you were to move forward. Initial gut feelings are rarely wrong!
3. Don’t become an all-out stalker.
Try to avoid turning into a super-detective and scanning all of his/her Facebook photos to dig up dirt on their past. Also avoid stalking their ex-partners as well. You know you’re just being nosey and you’re creating funky energy that could come back to bite you at a later date.
4. Meet only when you’re ready and put safety first.
We’ve all heard the horror stories of young girls going to meet their online boyfriends only to discover that they are wolves dressed in sheep’s clothing. Make sure you pay attention to your gut feeling when it comes to meeting people in person that you’ve connected with online. I’m not saying to be suspicious of everyone, just make sure you always tell someone you’re meeting a stranger somewhere. Do it in a public place! Yes, by all means get swept up in the fairytale, but be smart about it.
5. Enjoy the process!
Let got of your expectations and have fun along the way. Be very present and take each person at face value, leaving your past behind and approaching new relationships with a clean slate. Make sure your heart is open to all possibilities. If you have this attitude you’ll be amazed at what happens.
Do you know any couples that have met online? Has it been a positive experience?
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