10.30.12 Love

5 Tips For Dealing With Your Partner Looking At Other Women

5 Tips For Dealing With Your Partner Looking At Other Women

BY Sarah Prout

Men look at other women and it’s perfectly normal. However, many women feel uncomfortable and start fuming (read: steam billowing out of their ears) when they see their lover eye-balling a younger woman wearing a tight dress or bust them looking at the most ridiculously-themed porn. Have you seen some of that stuff? It’s seriously hilarious and I know you know what I’m talking about.

Here are some practical tips for dealing with this situation:

1. See it for what it is.
I think that the base cause of the feelings of discomfort for women when their partners look at other ladies can be insecurity and it’s really a pointless waste of your precious energy. From personal experience I can honestly say there have been times that my blood wanted to boil when I caught my partner mentally undressing a random woman in a restaurant, supermarket or in the post office. But the biological essence of the situation is that it means nothing. Literally nothing. It’s a fleeting surge that happens within the mind of the man and doesn’t mean he’s going to spontaneously sweep the attractive stranger off her feet and run away with her.

2. Jealousy is not very pretty.
Some men are better than others when it comes to taking a sneaky peek at a hottie. I know if I was a man I’d be pretty good at it I think. I’m pretty good at it now when I check out a man I find attractive.

The key point to remember here is that it’s about feeling worthy within yourself and not letting jealously rattle your cage. By comparing yourself to the woman you bust your partner looking at can be really upsetting and damaging to your
self-esteem if you let it.

3. Transform your fear into trust.
Just remember that it’s not an opportunity to question the special nature of your relationship or question your own unique attractiveness. Fear always attracts more fear so make sure that you approach any issues that make you feel
awkward with a sense of calm when you feel it’s necessary to discuss this with your partner.

Essentially, it’s all about empowerment: feeling comfortable in your own skin so it shouldn’t bother you whatsoever if your man checks out other women.

4. Invite your partner to channel the sexual energy towards you.
I opened a discussion to my boyfriend recently about this tpic as he felt slightly uncomfortable expressing to me that he indeed feels attracted to other women. I told him that this falls into the category of his own private conversation with the Universe and I don’t need to know everything. I also told him that the way I intend to view the situation is that I’m the lucky lady that gets to have all of that energy channelled into me (if you catch my drift) in the privacy and sanctity of our relationship.

5. Allow yourself to shine.
I’ve spent way too much of my life not feeling worthy and choosing to get grumpy over stupid, insignificant stuff. But I’m choosing NOW to be the best time ever to celebrate my own sexiness, my own beauty and my own ability to intend that I feel secure in all situations that arise. The key is alignment and moving away from fear based sense of false competition to allow the essence of our glorious expression as women to shine!

Sarah Prout is a bestselling author, co-founder of the Adventures In Manifesting series, entrepreneur, publisher and mumma of 2 little darlings. She reaches over 55,000 followers in over 24 countries around the globe with heartfelt, vibrant and empowering advice about love, business and style. Visit: SarahProut.com.

Sarah Prout is a bestselling author, co-founder of the Adventures In Manifesting series, entrepreneur, publisher and mumma of 2 little darlings. She reaches over 55,000 followers in over 24 countries around the globe with heartfelt, vibrant and empowering advice about love, business and style. See more of Sarah's work on her website.

Comments

  • Slishsloe

    You are all sorts of wrong. If he checks put other women you cant just say all men are like that and he gets away with it. Because his brain works that way? What? Have some respect woman. What the hell did your man do to you. Made you his bitch? If I dont eye ball other men, so he doesnt either. Its not nice, to give credit to other women when your woman is with you. Afkors everybody checks out what is eye appealing. But undressing with eyes? No i think no woman should go through that. Its the 21c. I think women arent stepford wives anymore 😉

  • Robin

    I am sorry, but I totally disagree. It is completely disrespectful of a man, or a woman, to look admiringly upon another, especially in front of the supposed love interest. First of all, what is he doing when you aren’t around if he would blatantly disrespect you and your relationship in your presence? Secondly, you are with the wrong man if this occurs. No man is worth being disrespected. I am very secure in myself! I am worthy of a man who will not make me feel disrespected in his presence! I also would never disrespect my partner! “Only eyes for you!!!” Yep, that is how it should be, otherwise, “it never hurts to look” can cause a relationship to fail if the eyes are wondering, possibly looking for something better! How do you think affairs begin? There is always a physical attraction. I was once told that a man told his wife that if a woman bared it all that he would probably have no self-control and go for it (if you know what I mean). Self-control begins with the eyes, thoughts, actions, etc. And, ladies, while I am at it, it is completely disrespectful of a woman to stare or attempt to attract a man who is in the presence of his woman. What goes “around, comes around” is true! If he is willing to look at you while with his woman, he will do the same if you happen to entice him away from his partner. Don’t be so naïve, or worse, narcissistic, to think this behavior ends with you!

  • A K K

    I find it very rude. It’s all about the approach, and if the person must do it on your time together, then, there’s a problem IMO.

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