10.30.12 Love

5 Tips For Dealing With Your Partner Looking At Other Women

5 Tips For Dealing With Your Partner Looking At Other Women

BY Sarah Prout

Men look at other women and it’s perfectly normal. However, many women feel uncomfortable and start fuming (read: steam billowing out of their ears) when they see their lover eye-balling a younger woman wearing a tight dress or bust them looking at the most ridiculously-themed porn. Have you seen some of that stuff? It’s seriously hilarious and I know you know what I’m talking about.

Here are some practical tips for dealing with this situation:

1. See it for what it is.
I think that the base cause of the feelings of discomfort for women when their partners look at other ladies can be insecurity and it’s really a pointless waste of your precious energy. From personal experience I can honestly say there have been times that my blood wanted to boil when I caught my partner mentally undressing a random woman in a restaurant, supermarket or in the post office. But the biological essence of the situation is that it means nothing. Literally nothing. It’s a fleeting surge that happens within the mind of the man and doesn’t mean he’s going to spontaneously sweep the attractive stranger off her feet and run away with her.

2. Jealousy is not very pretty.
Some men are better than others when it comes to taking a sneaky peek at a hottie. I know if I was a man I’d be pretty good at it I think. I’m pretty good at it now when I check out a man I find attractive.

The key point to remember here is that it’s about feeling worthy within yourself and not letting jealously rattle your cage. By comparing yourself to the woman you bust your partner looking at can be really upsetting and damaging to your
self-esteem if you let it.

3. Transform your fear into trust.
Just remember that it’s not an opportunity to question the special nature of your relationship or question your own unique attractiveness. Fear always attracts more fear so make sure that you approach any issues that make you feel
awkward with a sense of calm when you feel it’s necessary to discuss this with your partner.

Essentially, it’s all about empowerment: feeling comfortable in your own skin so it shouldn’t bother you whatsoever if your man checks out other women.

4. Invite your partner to channel the sexual energy towards you.
I opened a discussion to my boyfriend recently about this tpic as he felt slightly uncomfortable expressing to me that he indeed feels attracted to other women. I told him that this falls into the category of his own private conversation with the Universe and I don’t need to know everything. I also told him that the way I intend to view the situation is that I’m the lucky lady that gets to have all of that energy channelled into me (if you catch my drift) in the privacy and sanctity of our relationship.

5. Allow yourself to shine.
I’ve spent way too much of my life not feeling worthy and choosing to get grumpy over stupid, insignificant stuff. But I’m choosing NOW to be the best time ever to celebrate my own sexiness, my own beauty and my own ability to intend that I feel secure in all situations that arise. The key is alignment and moving away from fear based sense of false competition to allow the essence of our glorious expression as women to shine!

Sarah Prout is a bestselling author, co-founder of the Adventures In Manifesting series, entrepreneur, publisher and mumma of 2 little darlings. She reaches over 55,000 followers in over 24 countries around the globe with heartfelt, vibrant and empowering advice about love, business and style. Visit: SarahProut.com.

Sarah Prout is a bestselling author, co-founder of the Adventures In Manifesting series, entrepreneur, publisher and mumma of 2 little darlings. She reaches over 55,000 followers in over 24 countries around the globe with heartfelt, vibrant and empowering advice about love, business and style. See more of Sarah's work on her website.

Comments

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  • Raven Alchemy

    It’s a horrible feeling when the person you are with stares at the opposite sex… not just a glance of appreciation. I’ve been with my husband for 22 years and he has always blamed women for coming on to him. It took me a long time to figure out that, through staring, body language, and possible conversations behind my back, he was encouraging women. I thought it would get better but, if anything it has gotten worse. To me, it feels as if he— through non-verbals– is letting them know that he values them more than he values me. I realize that he does this for his own self-esteem and is often not even attracted to the woman. He just needs to know that she thinks he is attractive.

    Regardless of the reason, it makes me feel horrible about myself. In his eyes, I will never be good enough.

  • JJ

    i can appreciate this thread, mutual respect is vital to a relationship. Sadly, in friendships this respect dynamic is abused. for example, if I flirt in front of a female friend she gets jealous, women shouldn’t blame men for failing to affirm their desire to win when comparing themselves with other women. As a man I don’t compare women every woman is unique and therefore equally fascinating. I also respect the genetic make up of women in this way.

  • Chrissi marie

    If a guy is looking at naked pictures of women after two years of dating dose that mean that there is serious problems with the relationship especially if he’s not big on affection twards his partner

  • reshma chowdary

    My boyfriend went for a girl to the next town which is for about 5 hours and he coffesed it to me today. I was shocked. I am very much worried if he is truely loving me why should he had to go there to see her? And he said that was just attraction and we dont know to each other too

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