03.07.13 Love

Men We Love: Nick Valensi

Men We Love: Nick Valensi

BY Amanda de Cadenet

What can I say about my husband Nick Valensi that is not biased? Probably not much. What I will say is that you know the saying, “Behind every great man is a great woman”? Well that is certainly true in his case….

In all seriousness, he is the great man who has my back  . It’s because of him that I am able to work as hard as I do, to be able to spend the multitude of hours creating, maintaing and furthering my dream to make valuable content for women. It can’t be easy living with me, a woman who is all about equality and has very strong ideas about most things. It takes a strong dude to let his partner be the most they can be, and Nick is certainly that guy.

He’s a perfect addition to our Men We Love section, and not just becuase he’s my hubby- because he’s crazy talented, an amazing dad, and he LOVES and I mean LOVES women.

To make this edition extra special, Nick answered questions from you, our readers.

Would you ever do a solo album? – Giorgia Peach Cameron

What do you do to keep yourself inspired? – Sarah Neal
Sarah, inspiration is like a great porn star — it comes when it wants to. But seriously, I get inspired at random times. Unfortunately, I don’t think I really have control over that shit.

Are you going to do any tours in Latin America? – Irina Tuma
I’m afraid not, my sweet petite. It seems as though The Strokes won’t do a lot of touring for this upcoming album. But don’t get your knickers in a twist — we’ll probably head on down there for the next album.

How does you balance career and family life? – Chelli Herrera
Shit, Chelli, I don’t fucking know! Balance has never come easy for me. This question is more suited to my lovely wife, Amanda.

Why did you choose that guitar? That was what caught his attention? – Brian Pacheco
Oddly, I didn’t even choose my guitar — Albert Hammond Jr bought it for himself, then gave it to me because I didn’t have a guitar to play. What a good friend! Thanks Albert.


Which guitarists are your biggest inspiration? Agustina Avallone
I get inspired more by bands and songs than individual guitarists. The Beatles, the Velvet Underground and Guns N’ Roses have all been big influences on me.

What would you do if you couldn’t play music anymore? – @YOLO_1251
This question makes me uncomfortable because it brings to attention the embarrassing fact that I’m not qualified to do a single thing outside of music. I ignored my mom when she told me I should have a “backup plan.” Sorry mom.

When will the 5th album come out? Will The Strokes come to Asia for a concert? – Charlotte Louis
March 26, 2013. I’m sorry to say, Charlotte, but a Strokes concert in Asia this year is highly unlikely. We won’t be doing much touring.

What music are you into right now? – ‏@catwithinacat
I love the band SKATERS from new york. Also, I’m excited about the new Queens of the Stone Age album.

If given a second chance, would you do this (your life) all over again? Or would you do things differently? – @Rebel_Yellll
I’m grateful for all my experiences, but there’s definitely some things I’d do differently if I could go back with the knowledge I have now.

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The Strokes: Comedown Machine

The Strokes latest album, Comedown Machine, is available March 26, 2013 and available for pre-order now.

Amanda is a wife, mother, friend, photographer and the creator and host of The Conversation. @AmandadeCadenet


  • MMQ

    Illuminating. 😉

  • anon

    cue strokes fans crying

  • at least come to Toronto!

  • Thank you Nick for taking the time to answer some questions and sad about the non touring part. We love the music you make and I can’t wait to hear the nine Comedown Machine songs that are left to come out!
    Thank you to Amanda too. You are both an inspiration.

  • If The Strokes truly wanted to stop suicide they would announce a big tour.

  • gea

    this interview makes me both happy and sad but i love it how nick answered most of the questions such a cool guy

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