01.07.13 Truth & Wisdom

I Hope You Have A Rough 2013

I Hope You Have A Rough 2013

BY Ashley Perez

It’s not often that I find myself gracelessly trekking over an endless sea of frozen ice, but alas it’s winter here in Korea and after the snow comes a warm day, followed by the melting snow turning into the aforementioned sheet of ice, which brings me to my point— I hope you have a rough 2013. Ouch, that was both harsh and a non sequitur— or was it?

I hope you have a rough 2013 because if I’ve learned anything from walking on ice: it’s without a little roughness— traction to keep you steady— you are likely to slip and fall. If you’re anything like everyone else I’m guessing you wished for smooth sailing in 2013, a general plea to the universe that things finally go your way, but for your sake I hope the opposite happens. I hope 2013 catches you completely off guard in the best way possible.

We hope for smooth sailing because we are creatures of habit, programmed to love the status quo because the status quo is safe. Don’t get me wrong safe is good, only it’s not memorable, it doesn’t cause you to grow or stretch. Looking back on things now, even after twenty-three short years it’s become apparent the hard stuff is what made me who I am. Much like vacations, I remember every detail of every trip gone terribly wrong. And the ones that went according to plan? To be honest, I hardly even remember they happened.

But perhaps more important than the memories which hard times sew into the fabric of our being, are the lessons they teach us. For every job I didn’t land, boy who didn’t love me back and friend I disappointed, I’ve learned more and more about myself and what it is I’m really made of. Was it rough— the denial, heartache and disappointment? Yes, but it was worth it, it’s usually worth it.

And so yes, I hope you have a rough 2013. I hope life surprises you with many bumps and bruises, forks in the road and expected surprises, if only so you can learn exactly how strong you are. I hope life is rough this year so like a sheet of slippery ice, you too have a reason to slow down and take stock of exactly where you are as you traverse your way into the future. I hope life is rough so you have something to hold onto and look back on as your become who you are.

In short, I hope 2013 knocks you off your feet once or twice so you can feel the joy in getting back up.

Cheers friends, here’s to a rough year.

Ashley, like many other 20-somethings, is trying to figure out how to be a classy, sassy woman of character in a 21st century society. She's definitely a Hannah, though she has some Shoshana-like qualities. An English teacher in South Korea by day, she moonlights as a lover of Dawson's Creek reruns by night. She's cooler than this bio makes her sound, which is why you should check out her blog, Boys are IDOTS and her website, www.twentyandto.com a guide to getting your life together in your 20s.  She also tweets @itsashleyperez

Comments

  • well said. it took me forty years to realize what you have learned at 23. 🙂

  • This was beautiful! Thank you 🙂 <3

  • I hope for the best for everyone. I hope their 2013 is a cake walk, full of happiness joy and uncontainable bliss. I guess you are from the school of, learn the hard way, you won’t forget. Well I am against that, I believe you can grown, learn and stretch by being intelligent and by having a opened mind. I wish all my fellow sisters happiness and bliss and as few bumps in the road as possible. Smooth sailing. Nameste

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