12.29.13 Truth & Wisdom

Scrap the Resolutions and Review

Scrap the Resolutions and Review

BY Sadie Brown

I’m going to start this piece with something I never use: a negative. I’ve had a DIRE few weeks, and I never, ever, say that. When I say I’m not okay, my friends’ look panicked because this does not happen; it’s like the Queen saying ‘bollocks’, impossible. A domino effect of disappointments smacked me right in the face, out of nowhere, for the first time in years. The agent I wanted for my book passed, out of blue financial costs have wiped me out for December, my Christmas plans are in tatters, someone I was looking forward to meeting turned out to be hideous, and I lost my favourite ring somewhere. These were the main offenders with some other minors flying around just because, why not hey?

After a final tearful phone call to Barclays, poor them, I sunk myself into a hot soapy bath with my mind flitting back and forth while spiraling down a rabbit hole of questions, namely, ‘WHY?!’ The crux of the upset was the agent. I had my heart set on the hitting the New Year with an agent firmly by my side ready to take on the world, and with that vision diminished I felt the fabric of my carefully thought out 2014 crumble. This didn’t last too long though, of course – it’s me. Logic kicked in, and I found myself performing a mental post mortem of the year, yes, rather than get hung up the one thing I wanted to hit a new year with, what about the many wonderful things that I didn’t set out to achieve? They were pretty cool and not part of ‘the plan’ no?

I’m always the first to say stay fluid and open in order to reach your dream destination, as you never know where fate will guide you, but I had unknowingly slipped into the dangerous mindset of seeing the end of the year as a deadline for success. Scrap that. In reality there are no time limits as everything is happening simultaneously, only we see one version of events unfold at a time.

 A resolution is:

  1. The state or quality of being resolute; firm determination.
  2. A resolving to do something
  3. A course of action determined or decided on

You can have a resolution anytime. The clichéd ‘new year’ one is about as outdated as an age to be married, successful, wealthy, a mother. I think we can all agree that life does not naturally work this way. Set your resolutions as often as you like. That way: no mental deadline, it’s just something you will do. Hell yes!

The chances are, you’ll get to the end of this year, or any year, and have a bunch of things you didn’t do, but this is A-Okay. I know there is a waterfall of things you did do, that are just as vital to your happiness and future dreams. Things to be proud of, occasions to celebrate, and also the fact that you’re another year wiser. Remembering and reviewing are way more important and benefital to the future rather than setting yourself up for a superficial ‘fail’ via a list of goals that may not happen within a 12-month period. Let the time frames go. Go into a new year delighted with the good times of the previous one and accept the not so good as little life lessons to keep you on your toes.

The little things really matter too. I would say I am happy nearly every day, with or without my list of life goals ticked. I am happy and grateful every day for my health, my friends, my freedom, my home, the list is endless. Be grateful for all that you have, and push on. Happy New Year!

Sadie Brown is an author, writer, and mini style icon. Her move into writing comes after years in the music business as an artist. She is a proud Londoner who also loves New York City, so she splits her time between the two writing about it along the way, "The Big Apple welcomes my big English style, words, and thighs every time!" A regular in the glossies, she fuses together her love of fashion and writing on her journal, covering everything from dating to weight gain, with a healthy injection of humour and dresses. Her first full hilarious novel A Diary of Wrongness is due for release in 2014, along with a number of writing projects aimed to empower women, and tackle some of the more serious topics that the novel touches. "I hope this story will inspire women to value and love themselves exactly as they are and feel GREAT about it!" You can follow Sadie on Twitter @sadiewriter.

Comments

  • Sis

    True. Let’s be grateful for all we’ve got. Thank you for reminding this to this community.

    • Sadie Brown

      Thank you for reading Sis – Happy 2014 to you! Sadie X

  • Sophia

    I love this NYE/resolution article as I don’t like new year’s resolutions, as like you mentioned it puts people under pressure; and I think that we can be setting ourselves goals all the time. Small, big ones.

  • Ursula O’Connell

    Great article Sadie, the world needs more of your wonderful writing

    • Sadie Brown

      Thank you SO much Ursula! That is just lovely to read – hopeful there will be a lot more – I have much to give! Sadie X

  • bimini444

    I’ve always felt that way about new year’s resolutions. My new year begins on my birthday. That way I don’t get caught up in the new year’s hoopla

    • Sadie Brown

      That’s that wise Capricorn logic for you 😉

    • bimini444

      Sagittarius!

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