07.26.12 Truth & Wisdom

There’s a Way Out of Your Rut

There’s a Way Out of Your Rut

BY Michaela Mitchell

I think our culture is almost at its breaking point when it comes to enjoying living. I see more surviving than I do really living life. And I can understand why.

It’s really easy to get stuck in a disparaging cycle of despondency nowadays. In our culture, a life deemed successful is about accomplishment, wealth, advancement and always striving. If you’re in school, you are to strive for a really good job once you graduate. Once you have that really good job, you strive for an advancement. Once you attain that advancement, you strive for more and better. If you’re single, you strive to be married. Once you’re married, you realize it takes work. You either put in the work or strive for something else, something seemingly better. It’s a cycle of never being satisfied and never being good enough. But I want to challenge and encourage you.

You may say our world is a dog-eat-dog, corrupt, painful, cyclical place — it’s that way because we make it that way.

I just know that there’s better. There is a way out of the rut. One of the ways out is realizing you are where you are for a purpose. The grass isn’t greener on the other side, and if it appears to be so for the person you’re envying, stop. They’ve paid a price to be where they are, and you will, too.

I think a lot of us are burnt out because we have lost sight of purpose and instead live cyclically – wake up, go to work, go to sleep, wake up, go to work, go to sleep; wake up, take care of children, take care of husband, barely sleep, wake up and do it all over again. It’s really easy to become devoid of life that way. It’s mainly just surviving. Existing.

You live this life one time. You will have pain and frustrations. Things will happen to you that don’t make sense. Keep pressing on. The “American Dream” may be dead conceptually, but enjoying your life is so easily within reach, no matter what stage of life you’re in. You are never too old or too young to enjoy your life completely.

If you’re in a dead-end job right now, there are small ways you can keep yourself sane while you find your purpose in the meantime. Serve others. Treat others how you’d like to be treated if you were in their shoes. Set aside time for things that make you come alive – break the cycle.

If you’re unhappy with your relationships, you’d be surprised how many quality ones you can find while you serve others – be it in a nursing home, homeless shelter, orphanage, etc. You’ll feel incredible and grateful when you leave, too. Serving others and giving of myself is what really changes my world around for the better.

Engage your passion and go deep.

Do some soul searching. What makes you tick? What do you enjoy?

Featured image by Vivek Mukherjee on Flick

Michaela is a recent college grad with a bachelor’s in journalism and a minor in psychology. She currently lives in Lexington, SC, and enjoys writing, making people laugh, daydreaming about becoming best friends with Oprah, practicing yoga, playing the guitar and being alive. You can read more of her ramblings on her blog or follow her on twitter @michaelaadele.

Comments

  • Joybethalexander

    So beautifully written!! What an amazing writer this Michaela Mitchell is!! c:

  • alchemy

    So true: “They’ve paid a price to be where they are, and you will, too.” My contentment level has been on the increase since understanding that every (seeming) benefit/privilege has a current or delayed price…the universal law of balance. Michaela makes so many excellent points in this concise piece. The potential of service and doing what we’re passionate about indeed has the potential to change our lives from cyclically demoralizing to purposefully enjoyed; but we must dig in and do that work to reap the benefit.

  • Krishann

    I love that you spoke to the idea of service. It’s amazing how “making a difference” in someone else’s life can literally change your own..

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