10.30.12 Love

5 Tips For Dealing With Your Partner Looking At Other Women

5 Tips For Dealing With Your Partner Looking At Other Women

BY Sarah Prout

Men look at other women and it’s perfectly normal. However, many women feel uncomfortable and start fuming (read: steam billowing out of their ears) when they see their lover eye-balling a younger woman wearing a tight dress or bust them looking at the most ridiculously-themed porn. Have you seen some of that stuff? It’s seriously hilarious and I know you know what I’m talking about.

Here are some practical tips for dealing with this situation:

1. See it for what it is.
I think that the base cause of the feelings of discomfort for women when their partners look at other ladies can be insecurity and it’s really a pointless waste of your precious energy. From personal experience I can honestly say there have been times that my blood wanted to boil when I caught my partner mentally undressing a random woman in a restaurant, supermarket or in the post office. But the biological essence of the situation is that it means nothing. Literally nothing. It’s a fleeting surge that happens within the mind of the man and doesn’t mean he’s going to spontaneously sweep the attractive stranger off her feet and run away with her.

2. Jealousy is not very pretty.
Some men are better than others when it comes to taking a sneaky peek at a hottie. I know if I was a man I’d be pretty good at it I think. I’m pretty good at it now when I check out a man I find attractive.

The key point to remember here is that it’s about feeling worthy within yourself and not letting jealously rattle your cage. By comparing yourself to the woman you bust your partner looking at can be really upsetting and damaging to your
self-esteem if you let it.

3. Transform your fear into trust.
Just remember that it’s not an opportunity to question the special nature of your relationship or question your own unique attractiveness. Fear always attracts more fear so make sure that you approach any issues that make you feel
awkward with a sense of calm when you feel it’s necessary to discuss this with your partner.

Essentially, it’s all about empowerment: feeling comfortable in your own skin so it shouldn’t bother you whatsoever if your man checks out other women.

4. Invite your partner to channel the sexual energy towards you.
I opened a discussion to my boyfriend recently about this tpic as he felt slightly uncomfortable expressing to me that he indeed feels attracted to other women. I told him that this falls into the category of his own private conversation with the Universe and I don’t need to know everything. I also told him that the way I intend to view the situation is that I’m the lucky lady that gets to have all of that energy channelled into me (if you catch my drift) in the privacy and sanctity of our relationship.

5. Allow yourself to shine.
I’ve spent way too much of my life not feeling worthy and choosing to get grumpy over stupid, insignificant stuff. But I’m choosing NOW to be the best time ever to celebrate my own sexiness, my own beauty and my own ability to intend that I feel secure in all situations that arise. The key is alignment and moving away from fear based sense of false competition to allow the essence of our glorious expression as women to shine!

Sarah Prout is a bestselling author, co-founder of the Adventures In Manifesting series, entrepreneur, publisher and mumma of 2 little darlings. She reaches over 55,000 followers in over 24 countries around the globe with heartfelt, vibrant and empowering advice about love, business and style. Visit: SarahProut.com.

Sarah Prout is a bestselling author, co-founder of the Adventures In Manifesting series, entrepreneur, publisher and mumma of 2 little darlings. She reaches over 55,000 followers in over 24 countries around the globe with heartfelt, vibrant and empowering advice about love, business and style. See more of Sarah's work on her website.


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  • Desdemona Silk

    This is one of the dumbest things I read all day. This is basically telling women it’s OK to settle for these ridiculous fuccbois who have zero self-control and disrespect their women in public. I’m pretty sure if the situation were in reverse these same “men” would be fuming. Don’t settle ladies!

  • Leah

    I am so sick of hearing that it means nothing when a guy disrespects the woman he’s with. Men look, that’s what they do. You hear this all the time. They are excused for the disrespectful conduct. Now if a woman was to do the same thing, she would be considered sleazy and a tramp. Always double standards. And the one comment here is right. If men had to deal with what women do at the hands of our society, they would be basket cases. If every time they walked out the door their girlfriends were bombarded with scantily clad half naked men wearing super tight fitted clothing where nothing was left to the imagination, if their family jewels were thrust up in hammocks and squeezed together so tight that you had furry cleavage bouncing as they walked, while a wide string just covered the extreme tips of their …yeah, that… , if every magazine cover and every ad on TV showed nearly naked men, how would they react? I kind of have a feeling that their first thought would be that these kind of men have absolutely no respect for themselves whatsoever. How about if you had a restaurant that catered to women and had naked men servers with barely covered extremities? And when you encounter these things every single day you had someone beside you, your other half telling you it’s no big deal if I look, it means nothing, hey it’s just a body. Everyone has one.
    Great so if it’s not a big deal then why do you look? I also hate the fact that women who dress modestly and have morals end up losing slightly in the end. I mean not really but in society’s eyes. Super sexy in the media is defined as being half-naked and being so thin that your rib cage is showing but having boobs the size of Alaska. Women don’t even feel comfortable without plastic surgery now. I read a staggering statistic recently where it says now that woman by the age of 60 over 73% had engaged in plastic surgery to enhance their appearances for the other sex. That included at the top of the list breast augmentation and then went on with facelifts Botox, etc, tummy tucks. The fact that so many women feel the need to have to alter their looks to keep a man interested is absolutely ridiculous. I don’t see too many men going through the same thing.

    I was raised in a household where I think I had one of the last remaining parent couples that were totally madly in love and both parties showed respect for each other. My father never looked at another woman. He respected my mom the same way while he was dating her that he did on their 50th wedding anniversary. So I know that it is possible it’s just extremely rare. People say that when men look at other women it means nothing. That’s not true. I saw the difference that it made in the marriage of my mother and my father. Disrespect and mediocre and satisfactory where the standard of all the other marriages that I saw. However with my mother and father they had the strongest marriage I’ve ever seen. They were bonded and they were solid and faithful to each other not just inactions but in thoughts and in everything. It does make a difference. And that’s why I refuse to accept anything less. Man has used society and media and this immoral world that we live in as an excuse for their bad behavior and bad conduct. Hey I get it it’s easy they don’t have to work hard to do the right thing, they do what they want they look at other women, just say it means nothing and they get a free pass. And I’m not saying that every guy out there that looks at another woman wants to have sex with her. I don’t think that they always think about anything in particular. But it’s a matter of respect and dignity. If you love the person you’re with and you’re satisfied with them and there is absolutely no need to look at anyone else. I’m married and yes there are plenty of Attractive people in this world. I could very easily look at many good-looking guys everyday. But I choose not to. And it is a choice.

    Your eyes are going to be attracted to movement. As we go through our daily lives we will look at other people around us and their surroundings. It doesn’t mean that you never look at someone. But I am very careful that when I look at another man I never make eye contact or look back at him or hold his gaze for any reason whatsoever. For me to take a second look at a man would be disrespecting myself my marriage and my husband. I would never want to give any man the slightest hint that I was attracted or interested. For that matter, I would never want another man to think I even gave him a second look. Or thought. To do so would be disrespecting my husband. And I want every man and person to know that I love my husband with my complete heart mind body and soul and there is no one else ever they could hold a candle to him. You could step off the cover of GQ you have the best body in the world but it’s not a body that I would ever want to touch because the only person I want to be with is my husband.

    This is the respect that I show my husband. I as a person and all women deserve the same respect. I expect no more I demand no less.

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  • Sarah

    how about he is searching other girls facebook and pictures, i found my bf sometimes check out other girls photos,
    should i discuss about it with him? or act like a blind?

  • DJohnson

    Society has moved so far the the extreme side of coddling every minor slight made against women as being worthy of the death penalty. Men are as faithful to the women, (maybe more) as women are to men. So, a man who sometimes cannot catch himself glancing at a passing female, with all of her assets on display, should not be crucified and condemned. I cant resist pointed out that the USA is now in the midst of a Presidential election, where female voters may opt for a candidate that is a war monger, using exaggerations and (paid) rally disruption and inciting of violence to cast her opponent as a cad and racist. While she, under careful disguise as a “protector of women and children” is ready, and willing (paid for) to go to war for her benefactors profit and glory.

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