I suck at relationships. Which, I think, is something that many of us single women say. Likely, when we find ourselves in the right relationship, we’ll see that we suck a little bit less at them than we’d previously thought. In the meantime, it’s easier to attempt to come off like a bad ass who doesn’t care about being single, by grabbing a bull horn (from a college team mascot or a leader of a very large march, otherwise, I don’t know where you get one) and announce, “I suck at relationships!”
We’ve established that there’s no future Mrs. Jill Kushner, at this very moment. However, if and when I meet her, getting married should only be up to me. Well, and her. Fine, and maybe my sister. But, that’s it. It should certainly not be up to my government. Believe me, I don’t want a say in their marriages, either. I just want a say in my marriage. Because it’s really so simple. It’s really all the same.
My home state, Maryland, along with Washington and Maine have just legalized same-sex marriage. Minnesota voters rejected a proposed amendment to ban gay marriage. There are now a total of 8 states where gay marriage is legal. This year’s newbies join: Massachusetts, Connecticut, Iowa, Vermont, New Hampshire and New York. This is huge. And exciting. And groundbreaking. And, a little sad. Because it’s really so simple. It’s really all the same.
When you are in love and marry someone, it comes with stuff beyond glassware and very chatty in-laws. When you are in love and marry someone, it comes with rights, protections and benefits. And hopefully, a DVR. Because no two people can like all of the same shows. I don’t care how perfect you are for each other.
When two people are in love and decide to take the next step, marriage, not only do they want to shout it from the treetops (I’ll want to shout it from the bases of the trees, because I’m not big on heights) they also enter into a contract with each other. And, it’s pretty sacred. Marriage is a big deal. It’s the biggest commitment two people in love can make to each other. And if you love someone enough to marry them, you better damn well be able to walk into a hospital, that they god forbid may end up in, and visit them.
Come on, people. We are fast approaching 2013. This is no time to act like cave men and mess with civil rights. Here are just a few of the things going on right now: Someone has invented Augmented Reality Contact Lenses (Randy Sprague) which means people will have the ability to look at something and then access further information about it because data can be superimposed in your field of vision. The first commercial space tourism flight is approaching (next year on Virgin Galactic).
Of course, my long time crush, Richard Branson is behind this. And, for god’s sake, we can make our own fro-yo on like every block. Like I said, we are fast-approaching 2013. This is no time to act like cave men and mess with civil rights. We are moving forward.
If you love someone enough to marry them, and they love you enough to marry you and you both want to get married… you get to get married. This shouldn’t involve thinking about what state you have to fly to do it, either. Because it’s really so simple. It’s really all the same.Click here to read 7 awesome comments and leave another!