“The day I received my period, my mother gave me a pad and told me never to let boys play with me ‘down there’.”* Even though we only want the best for our daughters, we tend to have a blind spot when it comes to seeing sexual desire and pleasure as important components of ... read more

So, you’ve never had a one night stand before? Don’t worry, you have to start somewhere. Well, you don’t HAVE to, but if you feel like you’re comfortable enough with your sexuality to start having sex with strangers then by all means, read on. That’s important, by the ... read more

As mothers, we want to do everything humanly possible to make sure our daughters live happy, healthy lives. But according to my study of 450 women, they report there’s one area in which we consistently fail to support their confidence and self worth, as well as their connection to us. When it ... read more

I like to think I’m an ordinary woman. I’m 35, I’ve got a good job, enough friends and I know how to enjoy myself. I’m currently single but I’ve had a few nice boyfriends and a few not so nice boyfriends…see? Ordinary. But I harbour a dark secret – I have never had an or... read more

The other day my mother, 81, finally succumbed and went to the doctor to get some blood pressure pills; her first question was, “They’re not going to affect my libido, are they?” Her lover is 20 years her junior – which is probably what keeps her young. Sexual energy is a powerful and ... read more

As a couples therapist in New York, I’ve seen young and old, married or not, gay, bi and straight, with passports from all over the world. Plenty has changed in my 20 years of private practice, but not my patients’ opening lines. They tend to go something like this: “We love each ... read more